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I am often asked why I'm too picky when I seek a relationship and the reason is simply because it's just too superficial. It amazes me how nobody in my big Italian family went through divorce or separation yet here the rate is skyrocket. So, why so much infidelity and problems? I think both genders need to take some responsibility... -For one: Movies and soap operas are not reality; you won't find that stuff in real life. Relationships aren't easy or fun all the time (and are a 2 way street); they do have problems and take lots of hard work, sacrifice, and effort from both sides. A relationship will never be like it was the first few months. -This whole dating thing is, sadly, a game. There are too many rules. For guys, every guy knows the cardinal rule to getting a girl is "tell her what she wants to hear"...and we hate it lol. People start off all cool and smooth, but later turn rotten (like this turkey pesto sandwich I'm eating...which begs the question, why am I eating it?...) -You're supposed to love and want each other (unconditionally too), not love the material stuff; there are couples in this world who have nothing yet they last and are happy together. Ladies, any man who spoils you is only manipulating you and I guarantee he'll later turn into a control jerk. Also, the world isn't going anywhere... - Enough with the finger pointing, blame game, and childish drama. When issues arise (and they will) talk them out instead of running away (won't always happen, but try to at least). I'm tired of hearing of people getting married and then within a few years they run off because they realize it actually takes hard work everyday and it wasn't fun anymore. - Many put their jobs, money and sex ahead of their family and love life (not cool). Money is the root of all evil, though sadly you can't live without it. Making sex (though we all love sex and it's human nature) the basis of your life and relationships will lead to problems. If you're not satisfied, teach him/her like a 'committed' person should do. - With that said: Life is not about who has the most money, nicest car, biggest house, most friends, most fun life, hottest body, best job, etc. - Physical attraction has importance, but too many people seek a top model. Besides, the more you get to know someone the more attractive they become anyway. Looks do fade; eventually we all get old and saggy lol. Good looks won't save a relationship when problems arise. Too many people are shallow. - Were you and your best friend, best friends right away? Give people a chance, we all make mistakes and have flaws, though there is a fine line between a flaw and pure ignorance (a deaf girl on girl on crutches can be beautiful, but a girl puking all night from drinking isn't.) -We all seem to want the girl or guy who's edgy, wild, super sexy, care-free, etc...but aren't those the ones who turn into liars, cheaters, and heart breakers? Don't deny it, they are. If you keep going for those types, then you only have yourself to blame when you get hurt. Those types don't want commitment. -Many people tend to forget about morals, common sense, values, and can't think for themselves when they 'go out' (which is why many people worry when their lover 'goes out'). Unfortunately, those who can think for themselves and be themselves, use common sense and morals...tend to end up alone and overlooked. -Notice how couples back in the Stone Age (I mean old days) lasted forever yet modern couples tend not to? This is because they shared lives, were companions. They also didn't put their job or money ahead of their life. It's a fact that couples who have big lives outside of their relationships tend not to last as long. -The most important thing for men to realize is: Real men are not liars, cheaters, fakers, game players or start off cool and later turn rotten. Real men don't use, play, lie or abuse or pushover a girl. A real man is honest, caring, chivalrous, protect their girl, love family, listen, and are there for her when she needs him. No, a man shouldn't treat her like the Queen of England (this isn't Hollywood), but the girl should have no doubt in her mind that he loves her and only her. Men complain about how women are complicated and difficult (and some are lol), but in a way it's partially the man's fault for playing the games and lying. Just be real and honest, MAN UP. - The most important thing for women to realize is: Men want a Lady. Nobody ever said girls can't work, go to school, play soccer, change oil, drive a truck, drink a beer, etc. But if girls curse a lot, drink like a fish, have an attitude problem, if they can kick our ass or find that stuff entertaining, dress manly, cut their hair short, are more ripped and tougher than us...no thanks (a few don't care, but the good ones do). And don't say 'equality', because if men did girly things, girls would run. Again, it goes both ways (2 way street). Girls want a MAN, and men want a LADY. Also, men are not too fond of party, club, 'frequent' bar hopping, high maintenance, or busy business girls when it comes to "Love". -Since I'm a guy, I can give women secrets about men: We like and need romance too: Send us random texts saying hello, you miss us, hold our hand, etc...if a man doesn't want to be affectionate it's because he's not into you; men who love their women will show it anywhere. It's easy to tell if a guy likes you; if he makes fun of you or uses words like 'beautiful' instead of 'hot', he likes you. If you like us don't play 'hard to get' or we'll run. Fast food and video games are fine (as long as we don't neglect you). Men secretly prefer going Dutch (due to cost of living, economy). Yes, we do think about sex all day. Men can cry (just not every second lol). Unless it's sports, girls, sex or Call of Duty...we are not great conversationalists lol. -More secrets about men: We are men: we yell, get angry, have bad days just like anyone else, so don't run (unless it's abuse). We actually like when you make moves. Do we check out other girls? Yes, but we still love you only. Men (not jerks) are more faithful than women; we don't run when we meet a more fun, or 'better in bed' person like females tend to do. We're not mind readers, just say it. When you act all spazzy, we get embarrassed. The sexiest thing a girl can do is give oral. Some men are jerks because you bash good guys yet treat jerks like Kings. Don't try and change a jerk, it'll never happen. Lastly, and again: Men are simple people who want a simple life and a Lady. Keyword: Simple, we adore women who can enjoy the little things.
In closing, people should be more realistic, practical, not have unreal expectations, not be shallow, not play games, and actually date for real reasons (not for money, sex, reputation, status, loneliness). Live in the Real World, not the Fantasy Dream World. |